One of the most powerful secrets to success is making mistakes. Yet, from the time we started school we have mostly been taught that mistakes are the worst possible thing you can make. Our grades were almost always determined by the number of mistakes we made, so we are programmed to avoid mistakes and avoiding anything that risks such failure.
I’m not talking about making stupid mistakes caused by carelessness or indifference or unethical or illegal behavior. The kind of mistakes you should make are the inevitable failures that come from trying something new or doing something out of your comfort zone that moves you toward something worthwhile.
Here are 3 reasons why you should make more mistakes:
When you are being decisive, taking action, and learning from your failures (and from your successes), you will inevitably more forward toward your goals and the big successes you want for your life.
Hi there, it’s Kevin Ward with YesMasters Real Estate Success Training, helping you get more yes’s and more successes in your business, and in your life.
Today I want to talk to you about one of the most powerful secrets to success, one of the keys to success, and that is very simply this: Learning how to make more mistakes. I know, I know, it doesn’t feel right, does it? But if you want to be successful, I’m going to talk to you today about why you should make more mistakes. Everywhere you go, every day, if you get out there and make more mistakes, it makes a huge difference.
Now, everything in us, when we hear that, we think about making mistakes subconsciously, everything in us goes, “No!!!! I can’t stand the thought of making a mistake.” It’s like total failure, the worst possible thing that could happen, right? The reason that’s the case is because, ever since we started pre-school, ever since we started kindergarten, or first grade, or whenever it was, the first time you took a test, the first time you got a report card, what did you begin to learn? Well, our education system simply programs us that the worst possible thing that you can do, on any test, on any assignment, on anything in school, is make a mistake. We are taught from the time we are very young to avoid mistakes like the plague. Please, keep them away from me, no mistakes here. I don’t want to be a failure. And we equate making mistakes with being a failure.
In fact, I remember when I was a freshman in college, one of my favorite professors … he used to tell a story about a young college guy, that just graduated from college, and just got his first job at his dream company. One day he had a chance to talk to the president of the company, and he told the president, he said, “Mr. President, some day I want to be president of this company, or a company like this. How do you go about becoming the president of a company?” The president looked at him with-just very reassuring, and said, “You’ve just got to make good decisions.” The young guy said, “Well, how do you make good decisions?” The president said, “Experience.” The young guy said, “Well, how do you get experience?” And the president said, “Bad decisions.”
That’s it. How do you get good at being anything? You got to make mistakes, you got to mess up. When you make bad decisions, when you make mistakes, there’s something very powerful that happens. So again, I want to talk to you today about why you should make more mistakes, why you should screw up more. Now let me qualify that by saying, I’m not talking about stupid decisions. I’m not talking about being an idiot. If you’re a real estate agent, I’m not talking about not paying attention, I’m not talking about carelessness, I’m not talking about taking legal risks, by breaking the law, or doing something unethical or illegal. I’m not talking about those kind of mistakes. I’m talking about the mistakes of putting yourself outside of your comfort one, of doing something that scares you a little bit. Of doing something that’s like, “What if I try it and it fails?” It may be calling somebody, it may be calling a potential seller, a lead that may be a two or three million dollar listing. It may be a high end property, and you’re afraid to call them, and you’re like, “What if I try it, and it doesn’t work?”
Or maybe you have a script, and you’re like, “If I try that, what if it doesn’t work?” And we’re afraid of messing up. We’re afraid of making mistakes. So I’m talking about the mistakes of putting yourself out there, taking a risk, a logical risk that I would say stretches your comfort zone, or where you know that failure is a real possibility. After all, that’s how you learn, it’s how you grow.
So why is making mistakes so important to our growth, and so important to our success? There are three reasons that I want to share with you real quickly, why making mistakes is a critical part of the pathway to massive success. Number one is because when you are making mistakes, it means that you are being decisive. That you are doing something that requires you to make a decision. A lot of people, they never get off the starting line, because they’re still not sure. It’s kind of like, “Well, I could do it this way, or I could do it this way. If I do it this way, it could go wrong, like this, if I try that way, well that way might mess up.” So we’re looking at a different alternatives and different choices, and we’re going “Oh no, I could mess up this way, or I could mess up this way.”
So instead of saying, “Well, this one looks like the best route, I’m going to go that way.” We just sit there, and we’re like the-we straddle the fence. We just can’t get-we never take initiative to make the decision of “I’m going to go this way. Pass or fail, win or lose, I’m not going to just sit here.” As Wayne Gretzky, the famous NHL hockey player always said, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” So just that act of making a decision, and saying, “I’m going to do this way.”
The second thing is, making mistakes means that you are taking action, that you’re actually doing something. That you’re being decisive, which means I’m making the mental decision or the mental commitment to take action, and I’m actually following up and taking that action. When you’re doing that, you’re putting yourself out there. You say, “Well what if I miss? What if I mess up? What if I make a mistake? What if I lose? What if I make a bad decision?” Here’s the deal: No decision is the ultimate biggest mistake, because you’ve got no chance, right? Again, it’s like, you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
How many people have ever gotten a date with the guy or gal of their dreams by not asking them out? Right? “Well, they may say no to me.” Right. But if you don’t ask them, they’re definitely never going to say yes to you. So you’ve got to be decisive, you’ve got to take action, and then what happens is something very beautiful. You either succeed, or you fail. It either works, or it doesn’t work. Either way, the biggest advantage, the edge that you get from making more mistakes is, that because you’re out there and willing to take a chance, and you’re willing to make the mistakes, you’re going to learn faster than those who don’t take action, than those who aren’t decisive. You’re going to learn faster, grow faster, progress more quickly, just because you’re in the game. You’re out there running the ball, you’re taking the chances, you’re taking the opportunities, you’re engaging those opportunities, and you’re moving forward. If you mess up, you get knocked down, you jump right back up, and you keep going again.
Such a critical, and powerful key to our success is getting over the programming in our brain that making mistakes is bad. Being careless, not paying attention, not getting educated, not learning, trying to do everything on your own or reinvent the wheel-there’s a lot of mistakes that you can avoid by paying attention, and learning and growing, and getting the right coach, or getting the right training, or getting yourself educated. Too often, we spend too much time in the huddle. Too much time thinking about it, too much time trying to wait for the perfect moment, when we should just be out there making a decision, taking action, and then looking at it and saying, “Did that work or not? If it did, great, let’s do more of it. If it didn’t work, what can I change, how should I adjust? How should I do it different next time?” And then just repeating that cycle, going out there, making a decision, taking action, as long as you’re in the game and you’re taking action, making those decisions, making mistakes, making victories. Either way, you’re going to learn faster, grow faster, and you’re going to get ahead way faster.
So if this video helps you, you like this, be sure and give it a thumbs up. Feel free to make an comments, ask any questions that you’ve got. Subscribe to my channel if you haven’t done that already, and as always, what I want you to do, and what I pray that you will do, and challenge you to do with all of this, is that you’ll embrace every day of your life, that you’ll engage opportunity, and always expect yes.