How likable are you? The answer to that question can largely be answered by the answer to this question: How much do you like other people?
Up front..do you like people or do you look at them with skepticism.
I had a “Friend” whose 1st impression of everyone was super-critical.
Will Rogers, “I never met a man I didn’t like.”
He was a Native American, who identified himself as Cherokee Indian…in the 1920’s. Prejudice was rampant. He had every right to be negative and play the victim. Instead he chose to give people the benefit of the doubt.
He became one of the most influential men in the world by making friends with everyone.
How to make people like you is real simple:
Be positive about them. Doesn’t mean be naive or gullible. Be vigilant…and be kind at the same time. Like people and they will (mostly) like you back.
When they like you more, you’re going to make more money.
Hello, my friend. It’s Kevin Ward, the founder of YES Masters Real Estate Success Training helping you get more yeses and more successes in your business and your life, and today I have a very simple question for you. How likable are you? The answer to that question can largely be answered by the next question. How much do you like other people? In other words, when you meet somebody, when you first are introduced to somebody or you see somebody or you bump into somebody or you talk to somebody, a new acquaintance, do you tend to automatically like people and give people a benefit of the doubt, believe in them or do you tend to look at people and start out with them like you’re skeptical, maybe a little cynical and just not really quite sure you like them?
I know you’ve done this. You’ve met people. You run across people. You see people and you say hi to them and just by the way that they respond to you, you go like, “I don’t think I want to be friends with them.” The reason is because they come across as like you interrupted their day or as like they think you’re probably the enemy and they’re just waiting for proof. I know that I’ve had friends like that. I’ve had friends whose first impression of everyone was super critical. I’d actually hear them say and I remember this also back in my younger days, back when I was in high school in junior high is hear people go like … They meet somebody new or there’s a new kid in school shows up in class. One of the kids sitting they go like, “I don’t like her. I don’t like him.” “Why not?” “I don’t know. There’s just something about him. I just don’t like him.” Is that you? Are you the person that likes everybody? Are you the person that doesn’t like anybody?
I’m going to tell you that one of the greatest realities in life is if you want more people to like you, and here’s the bottom line, you want more business, you want to make more money, like people more because when you like people more, they are going to like you more. It’s just an automatic fact.
I think one of the greatest quotes that I’ve ever heard was a from a guy named Will Rogers, and it’s a pretty famous quote. He said, “I never met a man I didn’t like.” He said, “I’m so convicted by that.” He said, “That is what is going to be inscribed on my gravestone. I never met a man I didn’t like.” Now, this was back in the 1920s, 1930s long before you would have to be gender neutral or anything on that. He never met a person he didn’t like. That’s the point.
Now here’s what’s crazy about Will Rogers. Will Rogers was in his lifetime one of the most famous, one of the most popular people in the world, certainly one of the most popular people in America. Now, what’s crazy about that is that Will Rogers did not have everything go in his way. In the 1920s, Will Rogers was a Native American. He identified himself as a Cherokee Indian.
Now, this was back in the 1920s, the 1930s when prejudice against Native Americans was still rampant and you know that growing up … He was born in Oklahoma, an Indian territory, what they called Indian territory back then, and you know that growing up he faced racism, he faced prejudice just because of his background, just because of who he was and yet he never took on that identity of being the victim. He never took on the identify of saying, if there was anybody at any time in the world that would have the right to be cynical, that would have the right to be negative and to play the victim and to be like “The world is against me,” it would be somebody like Will Rogers. Instead, what Will Rogers decided to do was he decided to be positive toward everybody. He decided that his worldview, his view of life was to give people the benefit of the doubt. When I meet somebody, I like them.
Now, it doesn’t mean to be naïve. It doesn’t mean you just blindly trust people, but it simply means you choose to open up to people with a positive attitude that says, “I like you. I just treat you as a friend even though we’ve never never met.”
I’m one of those people that if I see somebody that’s friend request me, of course I can’t do this anymore because I’m maxed out on friends, but for a long time when people would send me a friend request, I just assumed they wanted to be my friend. I felt like there were two kinds of friends in the world. There were friends that I knew and there were friends that I haven’t met yet. That’s just the way I look at it. The question is how do you look at it? We live in a world where there’s bad characters out there and not everybody you can trust and all of that is true, but how do you start out? Do you start out believing or do you start out cynical?
I’m just going to give you two really simple principles for how to make people like you more. Number one, be yourself. Just be you. Be the best. You stand for what you believe in, stand for who you are and be yourself. Number two, like people. It’s so simple. Be positive about other people. Look, it doesn’t mean to be … Again, it doesn’t mean to be naïve or to be gullible. You can be vigilant and still be friendly and kind and happy to meet somebody all at the same time. When you approach life with this attitude of I’ve never met a person I didn’t like and that’s just your approach of how you go into a conversation, how you go into an interaction with another human being, it will change everything about how they respond to you. You like people more and they will like you more. When they like you more, they’re going to say yes to you. When they like you more, they’re going to want to do business with you. When they like you more, you’re going to make more money. It really is that simple.
I hope this video has been helpful for you. If you like it, if you agree with it, if this is powerful for you, make sure you give the video a thumbs up. Comment below. I’d love to see your comments, questions. Share this with other people because you know there’s some people that you know, there’s some people like this, too, that need to see this video because if they like people more, they would get better results.